Beyond Motherhood

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March 28th, 2006 1 comment

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NO POINTING FINGERS A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?” The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.” We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. ‘

NO OVERPOWERING Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.” It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

RIGHT SPEECH There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,”Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered ,”You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.” Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?”Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.” The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, ” Daddy,I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?” The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

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Malachi 1 verse 14

March 14th, 2006 No comments

It was exciting to see Allan doing a memory verse at Sunday school on Sunday. With mummy help, after 1 week memorizing Malachi 1:14 (For I am a great King. Says the Lord Almighty and my name is to be feared among the nation), finally on Sunday he was able to say the verse by himself in front of other children… and he was so cute…he did get chocolate bar as a rewards. … I was at the class helping the children with the worship. I should have bring my digicam (mmmm…)

Previous Sunday school (Sunday before) the children were given a blank paper asking them to draw something that they thank God for. I just leave him with his drawing. Guess what he draw??? ..CAR… He starts explaining to me.. the car got ekzos, this is the road…the road got bumper one… got tree, sun… I feel so funny looking at his drawing look like a mouse to me… Children are very creative and imaginative and no wonder God give children for the parent’s joy and delight.

After Sunday I had my appointment with the doctor on Monday, baby head is still down. Allan had a conversation with the doctor about the baby. Baby weight now is 2 kg. Manage to ask a few questions. Sleep late again last night. Watching National Geographic “In the Womb” with hubby. It is a cool, beautiful movie, a celebration of computer imaging and the 4-D ultrasound the acknowledgement that humans in the womb are complex, dreaming, pain-experiencing, memory-having, walk-practicing, music-enjoying. The filmmakers follow an unnamed woman through her pregnancy, down to the smallest observable detail; where this one pregnancy – the one that results in a live birth at the end of the film images of other embryos and fetuses, some computer-generated, are brought in..

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My 3rd Trimester

March 11th, 2006 1 comment

Start to go every 2 wks to see the OB now. It would be lying to say that I don’t worry about labor, or that I am not fearful. The excitement is beginning to set in. The baby is head down and doing well, I am finding myself napping and planning more than I am actually doing anything. Although this is still a good thing. Aside from that, Little Miss and I are doing well. Part of her body is over the right side – almost over my right hip. When she does a flip, I can feel her butt or head over there; it’s hilarious! finding it harder to find sleeping positions sometimes

People say that “First time moms are afraid of the unknown, while the second timers are afraid because they do know.” Whew! The last six weeks! Read lots of birth stories lately.

It’s been 3 years since my first birth and it was still fresh in my mind. I remember having my bible verse during my labor. Meditate on it and rest in His presence. Really works for me its help me not to concentrate so much on the pain. Besides…. God’s word is a living word. I was so bless having an easy and smooth delivery for my 1st child. I plan to use the same verse with a bit of extra verse for my 2nd one. Other than prayer from friends and Cell Group I have been meditating Psalm 63 & Psalm 66. So wonderful and relaxing. Plan to use this for my labor as well.